Emotions Are The Key to Memory

Emotions are catalyzers for the brain. Emotions let the brain know you are into something important. When something is important for the brain, the brain makes an effort to remember it. There are more neuron connections involved in the brain with emotions than with simple ideas.

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Let’s see an example about it. You wake up in the morning, take a shower and head to work early in the morning. As you are early this morning, you decide to go to the new coffee shop on your way to work and buy yourself a cup of coffee, as you are leaving, there is this woman talking on the phone entering in the coffee shop. As she is talking she manages to push, instead of pulling it. The door by the way has a huge “pull” sign on it. You were leaving and because she pushed the door so fast, you didn’t have a chance to react and the coffee splits all over your white shirt.

She was in such a hurry that she didn’t even notice the incident, she enters the shop and heads straight ahead into the counter. You look at her with a silent claim in your eyes, but she doesn’t even notice you.

You grab a bunch of napkins and leave the coffee shop. By now it is not early anymore, so you cannot go back to your house and put on another shirt, so you head out to work thinking about all the explanations you will have to tell your co-workers all day long, but specially what you are going to say to the client you will meet this afternoon.

I am sure that if by the end of the day I would ask you what dress was the woman that pushes your coffee in the morning, or a description of herself. You wouldn’t need much to give me the detailed description of her, and of course of all the incident in the morning. Perhaps you also would easily remember what you told your client, and what he said back.

But If I ask you how much did you pay for the coffee, or where did you leave your car keys when you arrived to your house, or how many emails you answered in the morning, chances are you would have trouble remembering most of those. Not because they were not important, some may, some may not, but the key is that those things did not have an emotion and the coffee incident had. It was also a powerful experience, not because of the consequences, but because it involved an emotion.

Most of the things we can’t seem to remember are because there wasn’t an emotion involved. You can’t remember where you put your keys or your cell phone, because you just did it. You have to call your own number to hear where you left it. In first instance that happens because you were not paying attention, probably because you were putting your attention on your thoughts, and not on the action itself. This happens to everyone all the time, but what about when she made you spill your coffee, an emotion arises and then you are not only paying attention, but you are also telling your brain to remember that, because it is important. If you would have left the shop a few seconds before, you wold probably may not even notice the person entering the shop, as it happens so many times during your every day activities.

That is also the reason because when we get angry or we are worrying for something important, we keep thinking about it, because it is an emotion the one telling the brain to remember it. Problem here is that with every time you remember it in your brain, you experience the same emotion again, with the same chemical experience inside your body, but also every time your brain is making stronger connections in your brain.

When you really want to remember something important, you can try to remember it, while you bring a powerful emotion, even if it doesn’t have anything to do with what you are remembering. Emotions are the key to Memory.

God Bless You.

Nature

Have you found yourself on a trail, a park or in your backyard watching nature?

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The first instinct of the mind is to interpret what it is seeing, colors, form, texture, and then look at your brain’s library and search for similar things you have seen in the past, then when it finds something that matches what your are seeing, then it categorizes it. Now your mind knows what it is, or at least knows in what category it fits.

After your mind categorizes what you are seeing, then it starts to add labels to what you are seeing, and it keeps doing that with everything you see from nature, it compares and labels everything you see. Most of the times the things you see enter in a category when you have seen better in the past, so what you are seeing is not as good as what you have seeing in the past. Your mind introduces you into an interesting conversation about what you are seeing. At that time you are just entertaining yourself with that conversation and you are skipping the experience of nature in front of you

This is what we call interpret Nature, and when your mind does it then you are not seeing anymore, you are only comparing this experience with your past experiences.

I you know this, you will have more chances to resist the temptation to categorize things and enjoy the experience in front of you.

When you don’t interpret things as goos or bad, or categorize things in your mind, you enter into the present moment, you become the presence that is experiencing something in that exact moment.

This is one of the most beautiful experiences you could have, and when you do that you start to notice without interpreting it, that nature becomes more alive than you ever thought before.

In the end nature is always alive, but we are always looking at it true the dark glasses of the mind.

Next time you have the chance to be in nature, be aware of this and experience nature in its perfection.

Hopefully someday you could do the same with every moment of you life, then you would be able to experience life as it really is.

God Bless You

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10 principles to a peaceful life

We are trying to control everything in life, but if we could learn we can let God do His job we would have a more relaxed and peaceful trip in this life, where joy would come easily, and we would enjoy every moment in our lives.

A simple way to understand this is comparing our trip in life with a trip on a plane.

1. Relax: This may sound so simple, but in this busy life we have created for ourselves, everything seems to be an struggle, we thing that we need to worry about everything in order to care about everything, but we could accomplish much more if we do everything in a relaxed mode, we could live healthier and do more, and yes give ourselves some time everyday just to relax. You wouldn’t have to go to the doctor as often, and eventually you would find more time for your self to relax.

2. Enjoy the view: You may ask What view? That is because we thing there is nothing going on out there, because we are so immerse in our thoughts all the time that we don’t have a second to look outside, but let me tell you; there is always something going on outside, there is something amazing out there, you just need to open your eyes, and close your mind and just look, see all the textures, colors, then see the trees, flowers, clouds, blue skies, sunlight, rain, snow, you will be amazed how many things are out there that you didn’t notice before

3. For sure someone is there to help you: There is someone that is more than happy to help you. Kindness is a quality of humans, we all have kindness and compassion inside of us, though some may show it and others will never do, you can always find the right people to help you, and if you think you can’t find anyone to help you, then go outside, open you arms and say to the sky “I need help”, and you will have it.

The Pilot who always knows what He is doing, let Him do the job.

4. There is a pilot and crew just to take you safe to your destination: There is always, in every moment of your life the ultimate Pilot who always knows what he is doing, let Him do the job, when you are on an airplane you don’t go with the pilot and say ” I think you are going too far east” you trust the pilot all the time, because you know that he knows, if not then you wouldn’t had purchased a ticket,if you wouldn’t trust the pilot. Now imagine what God knows compared to the pilot; trust God.

5. Breathe: All right we are always breathing, but breathing consciously makes a big difference, not only will make you feel relaxed, but it will make you be aware of yourself.

6. If something goes wrong there are face masks and life vests to help you: Sometimes things can go wrong, sometimes the unexpected can happen, but be sure that God would never send you something you could’t deal with, he will always provide you with whatever you need at that moment.

7. You were meant to fly: Sounds like a cliché, but we all were meant to be something great, and most of the times greater than we think we are. You can achieve great things if you believe you can. Wayne Dyer says you could accomplish things beyond your wildest dreams.

8. This is the only trip you have in this moment and only you are the only one that can choose to enjoy it or not: Now is unique and is the only moment you have, not what you had or what you will have in the future,you just have this moment to work with, and you are the only one that could decide to enjoy it or to complain about it, that doesn’t mean you cannot change things, if you don’t like something, this is the moment to change it instead of complaining about it, it is your choice.

9. Bad weather may shake the plane but be sure the sun is always behind the clouds: If you can’t see the sun it doesn’t mean it isn’t out there, so even if you forget about God in your cloudy days, you could be sure He is always there, He will never leave you and will always think about you, even if you don’t.

10. There are many passengers but only one plane we are one with the plane at this moment: We are all connected, we are one in our deepest selfs, we are not separated from the others, not because we have different bodies it means we are separated from the others, the ego is the one that makes you think that, and that feeling of separation is the cause of the suffering in this world, so if you could comprehend the oneness of everything you would have a peaceful and happy trip. I Hope you have it.

God Bless You
James Fontaine