Emotions Are The Key to Memory

Emotions are catalyzers for the brain. Emotions let the brain know you are into something important. When something is important for the brain, the brain makes an effort to remember it. There are more neuron connections involved in the brain with emotions than with simple ideas.

coffee

Let’s see an example about it. You wake up in the morning, take a shower and head to work early in the morning. As you are early this morning, you decide to go to the new coffee shop on your way to work and buy yourself a cup of coffee, as you are leaving, there is this woman talking on the phone entering in the coffee shop. As she is talking she manages to push, instead of pulling it. The door by the way has a huge “pull” sign on it. You were leaving and because she pushed the door so fast, you didn’t have a chance to react and the coffee splits all over your white shirt.

She was in such a hurry that she didn’t even notice the incident, she enters the shop and heads straight ahead into the counter. You look at her with a silent claim in your eyes, but she doesn’t even notice you.

You grab a bunch of napkins and leave the coffee shop. By now it is not early anymore, so you cannot go back to your house and put on another shirt, so you head out to work thinking about all the explanations you will have to tell your co-workers all day long, but specially what you are going to say to the client you will meet this afternoon.

I am sure that if by the end of the day I would ask you what dress was the woman that pushes your coffee in the morning, or a description of herself. You wouldn’t need much to give me the detailed description of her, and of course of all the incident in the morning. Perhaps you also would easily remember what you told your client, and what he said back.

But If I ask you how much did you pay for the coffee, or where did you leave your car keys when you arrived to your house, or how many emails you answered in the morning, chances are you would have trouble remembering most of those. Not because they were not important, some may, some may not, but the key is that those things did not have an emotion and the coffee incident had. It was also a powerful experience, not because of the consequences, but because it involved an emotion.

Most of the things we can’t seem to remember are because there wasn’t an emotion involved. You can’t remember where you put your keys or your cell phone, because you just did it. You have to call your own number to hear where you left it. In first instance that happens because you were not paying attention, probably because you were putting your attention on your thoughts, and not on the action itself. This happens to everyone all the time, but what about when she made you spill your coffee, an emotion arises and then you are not only paying attention, but you are also telling your brain to remember that, because it is important. If you would have left the shop a few seconds before, you wold probably may not even notice the person entering the shop, as it happens so many times during your every day activities.

That is also the reason because when we get angry or we are worrying for something important, we keep thinking about it, because it is an emotion the one telling the brain to remember it. Problem here is that with every time you remember it in your brain, you experience the same emotion again, with the same chemical experience inside your body, but also every time your brain is making stronger connections in your brain.

When you really want to remember something important, you can try to remember it, while you bring a powerful emotion, even if it doesn’t have anything to do with what you are remembering. Emotions are the key to Memory.

God Bless You.

Advertisements

Repressed emotions may manifest as illness.

FOR EVERY MINUTE

Emotions are to be channeled or expressed. Every emotion in our body has a meaning, there aren’t bad or good emotions, every one has a reason to exist.

There are consequences if you express your emotions in a wrong way. If you got angry with your spouse, and you say things you would regret later, then you have to live with the consequences of expressing your anger in that way.

If you yell at your boss because you got mad at him, there is a chance you get fired, and live the consequences of your reaction to anger.

If you express your emotions the wrong way, you may not like the consequences of your acts. But even worst than expressing your emotions the wrong way is to repress the emotions.

The meaning of repress is to press it again, in this case pressing it again to the inside of the body, which means not letting it out. Some call it eating the emotion, and they are right in a way, you are eating the expression of the emotion to the inside.

Is like yelling to yourself instead of yelling to your boss, or saying things you’ll regret to you instead of your spouse.


As we talked before, every emotion has a purpose, and a chemical reaction in your body. When you reprehend an emotion, let’s say anger or resentment, then your body is not able to release the chemicals in your body released by the felling of the emotion. Those chemicals are completely harmless to your body if they are released properly (your body knows exactly how to do that), but when you repress the emotion, you are not letting your body release those chemicals, and residuals of those chemicals, are going to stay in every cell of your body, until they find a way out.

If they accumulate over and over again, eventually they find a way out. Most of the times they find a way out int the form of illness. Accumulated resentment in the body is manifested later in the form of cancer.

Repressed fear is later manifested as stress, and if you keep adding and adding stress it may manifest as almost any kind of illness, from a cough to a depression.

But there is a way out. One of the most easy and effective ones I have found is TAPPING(EFT),Which I will explain in my next post.

God Bless You.

Hole in the Fence

20130306-112252.jpg

“There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence He said, “You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there.”

As the story tells, when we get angry, we say or do things that may hurt others, and that wound could stay forever. The principle is simple, but it may not be that easy to get rid of anger, not easy, but possible.

We are used to get angry on a daily basis, and that is because we have been doing that for many years, so by now our brain has long term connection on the emotion of anger, it even has specific chemicals which are sent to our cells every time we get angry.

Every time we got angry in the past, a connection was reinforced in our brain, then after so many times we have reinforced the emotion, the neurons in our brain have formed a long term relationship.

Basically we do not have control of our anger, it comes out of our brain naturally. But we can change that. Just as the brain has the ability to create long term relations, it also has the capacity to forget those connections. When neuron connections are not used on a daily basis, they loose their long term relationship, therefore we can rewire our brain with new connections.

The question would be, If we have no control over our anger, how can we stop getting angry and rewire our brain?

Here is the trick; every time you are aware of an emotion, the connection looses power. Every time we KNOW we reacted because we were programmed to do so, the connection get weaker.

In addition if we know the real reason because we are getting angry, our conscious mind will start to make new connections, because now we know the reason, and that will give us control of the situation in future events.

If we believe there are many things outside which can make us angry,we will find it so hard to work with the emotion, but if we understand that in essence anger is one of the simplest emotions we have, and most of the times we experience it, is only for one reason inside us and not outside, then we will be able to rewire our brains.

The reason most of the times we get mad is because we want to be right.

So next time you get angry, be aware of it, and look underneath the emotion to find out the reason you got angry, that may lead you to make a new program in your brain, and help you be in control of your emotions, without having to reprehend them. You will have a more peaceful life.

Blessing

Do I live in a friendly or a hostile Universe?

This is the second part of Einstein’s philosophical thoughts.

Einstein who is best remembered as a scientist, found wisdom in his search for true, He said this:

“The most important decision you’ll ever make is
whether you live in a friendly universe or a hostile universe”

This literally can change the way you perceive the world, the way you perceive reality, because if you choose to live in a hostile world, then you will find a hostile world everywhere you go.

You may think these are just feeling good words, which may sound nice, and eventually may work for some issues, but they can’t change the word as it is.

Well these words are more powerful than you may think, let’s have simple example of how we perceive the “world outside”.

Try to remember when you were going to buy a car, let’s say you decide to by an specific car from a brand, almost everyday when you are on the streets, you may start noticing the same model of car you want to buy, you start noticing there are different types of the same model you want to buy, and you start encountering more and more cars of that brand than ever before.

The cars did not show up magically that day, they already were there before, but you didn’t notice them, because you didn’t think about them, but in the moment you start to think about it, they seem to show up more and more.

There is no difference with what Einstein said, (after all he is considered the brightest mind of the last century) when you choose to live in a hostile word, you start to find bad news, the people you talk to seem to tell you bad news most of the times, you find the worst drivers on your way, and bad news become a part of your life. It doesn’t mean there are not good people or good news, but you chose to live in a hostile Universe, therefore you perceive a hostile Universe everywhere you go.

The opposite is true as well, when you choose to live in a friendly Universe, you start to see opportunities everywhere you start to see more and more good news, or maybe you stop watching the news, you find good people all the time, good things start to happen. It doesn’t mean that there are no more bad news, it is just that you decide not to focus on them and start focusing in good things instead.

Trungnpa Chogyam in his book The Sacred Path of the Warrior has a very important observation:”we can actually cure ourselves of depression if we recognize that the world we have is good”

If you decide to live in a friendly world and wake every morning saying to yourself

I live in a friendly world.

Then at some point, you may find yourself in a different word, because you discovered reality is nothing else than what we perceive trough our thoughts, through the memories we have accumulated from the past, and that it is different to everyone, because everyone has chosen, even without knowing to live in a friendly or a hostile world

It is your choice

God Bless you

Infinite Patience Produces Immediate results

A quote from A Course in Miracles
Here A Course in Miracles is talking about attachments; because when you are not attached to the result, then you are more aware of the doing instead of the achieving. This means you are practicing infinite or endless patience, this patience is the patience of God. So when you have it, it means you are connected with God.

Dr. Bob Rotella a famous mind coach for several pro golfers tells us in his book “Golf is not a game of perfect”

“In golf as in life, you have to look at your target with soft eyes, confident about the result, but without any attachment, this takes away the pressure of executing a perfect shot and raises the chances of making an great shot”

Dr. Rotella is talking about the same concept as A Course in Miracles, to focus on the result, but to let it go, in other words “Let go and let God”. When you are not attached to the result, you are showing you have the confidence that you are going there, but if it does not happen, then you know that there are other perfect plans for you, and that an infinite intelligence knows better, what is best for you.

When you practice infinite patience, then you are practicing infinite Faith, not only faith in the results, but faith in God, the faith that tells you that everything is part of a perfect plan. When you practice infinite patience, you know deep inside of you that:

“Everything happens for my own sake”

This is the ultimate faith, this is the infinite faith A Course in Miracles talks about, a faith that creates immediate results, because when we are not attached to the results but focused on the target, and know inside of us that God has a perfect plan for me, then the results will show up, this way we will be able to achieve our goals better than before. Being anxious about the result, produces stress, and that takes us away from the goal and takes our attention on the thoughts we are having about it, the thoughts that most of the times are thoughts of failure instead of success. These failure thoughts we have when we are attached to our goal,create failure, because you start to focus on those thoughts instead of just be focused on the goal itself, and where your attention is focusing then the results will go on that direction.

So next time you feel anxious about a result of something you want, let go and let God.

How? Focus on the goal, and be Patience

Your Happiness Doesn’t Depend on the Place Where You Are

Imagine you are in a luxurious hotel on the beach, there is a gorgeous view from you room, you are seated in a hammock with a cold drink and in the perfect warm weather, then you receive a phone call, it is your assistant telling you you have lost everything you have in your business. You would not feel good, even though the place is a perfect place, the news make you feel miserable.
On the other hand imagine you are just walking on the street where you usually walk everyday, then you find an old friend from school that you have not seen for years, it makes you feel good, even though the landscape is the same you see everyday.
So happiness is not a matter of where you are, it doesn’t come from the outside, it comes from the inside, yes a beautiful place surely helps for you to feel good, but it doesn’t guarantee that you would be happy in that place, and if a landscape makes you feel happy it is because you are connected from the inside with the landscape, therefore you feel happiness and bliss.
I remember one day I was driving back home and then I looked at the sky and saw one of the most beautiful sunsets i’ve ever seen, the clouds were so bright, lightened by the sun, with different colors each one, there were also light beams that crossed the clouds making it look like a Renaissance painting. I felt instantly happiness and bliss, because something that beautiful touched my soul. Then I thought everyone was enjoying that sunset as I was doing, but when I looked at the others drivers I realized that everyone was on their own business, trying to answer the phone, talking, but most of them seemed to be in autopilot, not focused on their driving, the road or the sunset, they were focused on their own thoughts, they were focused on the current of thoughts we all have inside of us, then I realized that I was the only one that was aware of the master piece of God painting a gorgeous sunset, just for me.
Next time you find yourself in a beautiful place, be aware of it and enjoy it.
And next time you realized you are have unpleasant feelings, be aware of them and remember that it all comes from the inside and you have the choice to change that, regardless of the place where you are.

God Bless You