I Am Here to Have the Best Life Possible Now

bestlife“I Am Here to Have the Best Life Possible Now”

Not in the future, not in the past, but today, today is the time to make this decision.

If we commit to this decision, we will start to live the life we were supposed to live. Even if you have an illness today, or if you are feeling overwhelmed for your duties, you can still have the best life of whatever the situation you are dealing with now.

When we commit to this, we start to see things different. A problem can not be solved with the same mind that created it. But when we commit to have the best life possible for this here and now, we are changing our minds, therefore , we can now solve our problems with a new mind.

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer says:

When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change

And that it not only a word game, it goes beyond our comprehension, because we affect our surroundings, the people around us, situations, the environment, etc. with our thoughts, but most important with our feelings. So, when you commit to have the best life possible you can imagine, you are making changes in your thoughts, your mind and your feelings. You are opening yourself to possibilities you were not able to see before. Situations will change, people  will change, problems will get solved.

You will start to live a new life when you make the commitment.

You will be having the best life possible for the situations you are living now.

God Blesses You

Hole in the Fence


“There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence He said, “You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there.”

As the story tells, when we get angry, we say or do things that may hurt others, and that wound could stay forever. The principle is simple, but it may not be that easy to get rid of anger, not easy, but possible.

We are used to get angry on a daily basis, and that is because we have been doing that for many years, so by now our brain has long term connection on the emotion of anger, it even has specific chemicals which are sent to our cells every time we get angry.

Every time we got angry in the past, a connection was reinforced in our brain, then after so many times we have reinforced the emotion, the neurons in our brain have formed a long term relationship.

Basically we do not have control of our anger, it comes out of our brain naturally. But we can change that. Just as the brain has the ability to create long term relations, it also has the capacity to forget those connections. When neuron connections are not used on a daily basis, they loose their long term relationship, therefore we can rewire our brain with new connections.

The question would be, If we have no control over our anger, how can we stop getting angry and rewire our brain?

Here is the trick; every time you are aware of an emotion, the connection looses power. Every time we KNOW we reacted because we were programmed to do so, the connection get weaker.

In addition if we know the real reason because we are getting angry, our conscious mind will start to make new connections, because now we know the reason, and that will give us control of the situation in future events.

If we believe there are many things outside which can make us angry,we will find it so hard to work with the emotion, but if we understand that in essence anger is one of the simplest emotions we have, and most of the times we experience it, is only for one reason inside us and not outside, then we will be able to rewire our brains.

The reason most of the times we get mad is because we want to be right.

So next time you get angry, be aware of it, and look underneath the emotion to find out the reason you got angry, that may lead you to make a new program in your brain, and help you be in control of your emotions, without having to reprehend them. You will have a more peaceful life.


Tapping. A “new” way to dissolve your problems

Let me start by giving the definition of TAPPING:

Tapping Thought Field Therapy, or TFT, is a fringe psychological treatment developed by an American psychologist, Roger Callahan. Its proposes that it can heal a variety of mental and physical ailments through specialized “tapping” with the fingers at meridian points on the upper body and hands.

Tapping was first used to reduce the stress levels, but eventually, some found out that when you release the tension of your body, then other things start to improve as well.

Tapping has been around for some years, but in the last couple of years, several big names in Self-Improving have been talking, teaching and writing about tapping: Jack Canfield, Cheryl Richardson, Louise Hay, Wayne Dyer, Gabrielle Bernstein among others

Tapping works in two ways.

Firs is the release of tension on the meridians, because as Callahan claimed, each perturbation we have is encoded information contained in the “thought field”( the energy field created by positive or negative thoughts). Our thought field, changes constantly, because it is connected to a particular problem, and is activated by thinking about that problem. These perturbations have a lot to do in the creation of negative emotions and that each perturbation corresponds to a meridian point on the body. Therefore in order to eliminate the emotional upset, a precise sequence of meridian points must be tapped. By tapping we unblock the flow of energy, in other words it balances the flow of vital energy in our lives.

Second is because we speak while we tap, this is a way to “give words to the emotion”, this is a simple but powerful way to transform our lives. Most of the times we feel some kind if anxiety, we are not aware about what is really the cause of that anxiety. When we “know” the origin of our anxiety, we are able to work it. If we can see the problem that is producing the anxiety, the problem starts to loose power over our bodies(remember, our brain has the ability to increase the size of any problem, by thinking about the problem and not the possible solution).


Nowadays, there are a lot of information about tapping, and it could be used for many problems, and not only to reduce stress. You could also find information on how to do the tapping to solve many problems:


Does it really work?

The answer for me is simple: Try it for yourself, and find out if it works your you, and if it does, then you have just found new powerful techniques that will help you live a happier and less stressed life. If it does not work for you, then you have one less thing to try in order to have a happier life.

God Bless You

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Imagination is Everything, it is the preview of life’s coming attractions

Albert Einstein

Albert Einstein is well known for his contributions to science, but most people don’t realize Einstein was also ahead of his time with his philosophical thoughts, we have been using some of Einstein’s principles in human development as well as in physics . His research in quantum physics are the basis of how we can change our reality by changing our thoughts, but not only in a philosophical way, but in a scientific way as well, because of Einstein we now know that the particles in an atom depend on the observer, that we can change the atom’s form from a particle to a wave,therefore we now know as Dr Wayne W. Dyer says:

If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change

There is also the relativity principle which I will talking about it in a future post, but the one we a going to talk about it is “Imagination”

Imagination by definition is the ability of forming mental images, sensations and concepts, in a moment when they are not perceived through sight, hearing or other senses. It is our ability to create something that doesn’t exist (yet) in our minds, but it is also the ability to create what we imagined in our reality as well. All of the biggest accomplishes in human history started as a thought, started as imagination. It is called imagination, because it is the creation of imagethe with a thought.

There has been great examples of great people who has had great imagination: Steve Jobs, Steven Spielberg, George Lucas, Gandhi, martin Luther King, and so many others , and of course one of my favorites Walt Disney, who is the best example of imagination. He did not only used imagination to create Disney and everything that we now know about it, he also promoted imagination, because he knew the power of it, he knew that everything he created started as a thought, as an image in his mind.

But Walt Disney knew that an image in your mind is not enough, you need to implant that image in your heart in order to create that image as a reality and not only as a dream. Disney knew that when you put your heart in an idea, there are big chances it will come true, because your heart is the connection with your Higher Self, it is the connection with God, therefore , when you connect your ideas with God, magic starts to work for and with you.

When you wish upon a star your dreams come true

So use your imagination to create the life you want, the people you want to be with, the circumstances you need in your life, and then put your heart on those ideas,feel it as if it already exists in your life, then thank God for them, and be ready to enjoy Life’s coming attractions.

God Bless You

Are you living in the present moment? If not, this video could help.

Ric Elias had a front-row seat on Flight 1549, the plane that crash-landed in the Hudson River in New York in January 2009. What went through his mind as the doomed plane went down? At TED, he tells his story publicly for the first time.

Ric learned a lot from being in the edge of death, and he shares his learning in a very simple way. Being close to death makes you put things in perspective, makes you realize you have been wasting precious time doing something that is not worth it, expending too much time being worry for things that have already happened or that may never happen.

Eric says this

“I collect bad wines”

He says if he has a good bottle of wine and he is with th right person, he will open it, because he may never have the time to open it.

He also says he doesn’t argue now to be right, he wants to be happy instead.

Don Juan the chaman in Carlos Castaneda’s book is always talking about your own death, it says that your death can teach you more than your own life, because knowing you are going to be death takes away the urgency to accumulate possessions. It also makes you braver and stronger, because you know that one day you are going to be gone.

He also says something that really caught my attention, he says that he wasn’t rally afraid of death, though he didn’t want to die, because he wanted to help more people, he wanted to see his sons grow up, he wasn’t afraid of dying.

It makes you wonder that being so close to death could make you see it as it really is, as something natural, as the next step towards our evolution, returning back to the Source, returning back to the state of peace and endless consciousness. Return to God, which I believe it couldn’t be sad at all.

But for now we only have this moment and nothing else, so we can keep busy living or keep busy dying.
It is your choice

God Bless You


Who’s packing your parachute?

Last Sunday I was watching Joel Osteen’s show(www.JoelOlsteen.com), and he was telling the story of an US Pilot, named Charles Plumb, here is the story:

He was a US Navy jet pilot in Vietnam. After 75 combat missions, his plane as destroyed by a surface-to-air missile. Plumb ejected and parachuted into enemy hands. He was captured and spent 6 years in a communist Vietnamese prison. He survived the ordeal and now lectures on lessons learned from that experience.
One day, when Plumb and his wife were sitting in a restaurant, a man at another table came up and said, “You’re Plumb! You flew jet fighters in Vietnam from the aircraft carrier Kitty Hawk. You were shot down!”
“How in the world did you know that?” asked Plumb.

“ I packed your parachute,” the man replied. Plumb gasped in surprise and gratitude. The man pumped his hand and said, “I guess it worked!” Plumb assured him, “It sure did. If your chute hadn’t worked, I wouldn’t be here today.”

Plumb couldn’t sleep that night, thinking about that man. Plumb says, “I kept wondering what he might have looked like in a Navy uniform: a white hat, a bib in the back, and bell-bottom trousers. I wonder how many times I might have seen him and not even said Good morning, how are you?’ or anything because, you see, I was a fighter pilot and he was just a sailor.”

Plumb thought of the man hours the sailor had spent on a long wooden table in the bowels of the ship, carefully weaving the shrouds and folding the silks of each chute, holding in his hands each time the fate of someone he didn’t know.

Now, Plumb goes around the world giving conferences, and he always asks his audience:

“Who’s packing your parachute?”

The People that is packing our parachutes are the ones that we don’t notice most of the times, the people that do the “small things” for us: the people that is cleaning the streets, cleaning the office, the policeman, the waiter at the restaurant, the cashier at the grocery store. All those people that we sometimes barely notice and that many times we don’t even know their names, are always there for us, even when we don’t even notice them.

You could do many things for these people behind you, but sometimes the best way to do something for them is to say “thank you” from the heart, letting them know, that they are really important for you, that they are doing a great job for you and that you really appreciate it.

A simple way to do this is to do it one at a time, this way we can start by finding one person that does somethong for us, and start thanking one person every day, trying to be aware of all the persons behind you, one person per day, one at a time. you can write them a letter, an email, a text message, you can thank them in person.

I am pretty sure you won’t run out of persons that are now helping you, you may even notice that you are aware of more and more people every day that are there to make your life easier.

I also want to Thank You for reading my posts.

God Bless You


Anger takes you away from the Present Moment

“The most important thing we miss when we are mad is the present moment.”

Have you ever observed a child in the moment when he is really upset, he does not listen to us or to anybody.

Yesterday my oldest son was upset, and I was trying to talk to him asking him to pay attention, when my youngest son told me:

” He is not listening now that he is angry, it happens to me when I am upset too”

And it is true, when we are angry or upset, we are having in our minds thoughts about what happened, we are having thoughts about the past, trying to justify us and trying to convince us that the other person is wrong

Sometimes, we are having thoughts from the future, thinking about what we would do to that person or what are we going to do about the situation in the future.

All these thoughts are ego justifications; the ego does it because is trying to convince us that we are the ones that are right, therefore making the others wrong. The ego does this in order to distract us from the most important thing in our lives: The Present Moment.

This moment is also called ” The Present”, because it is a gift from God, and it is given to us in every breath we take, in every instant we are alive.

Therefore the secret is to be present, because in the present moment there is no place for anger, so if we know this, next time we are mad, it is possible that we could be able to return to the present, and in that moment we will realize, that the anger is only feeding us with thoughts from the past or the future.

If we commit to make an effort to be present most of the times during the day, then we will not only get to reduce the times we get mad, we will be living the life we were meant to live.

God Bless You

A “new” New Year’s resolution

2011 has just begun and most of us have some great resolutions for next year. Many of us have fallen short in past years in completing some of the most common ones including:

  • Quit smoking
  • Quit drinking too much
  • Exercise more
  • Eat healthier
  • Finish a race
  • Study something new

All of these resolutions have something in common. They focus on the body or the mind. But what about spirit? What about being a better human being?

This year I have a proposal that could change the way you live your life by only focusing on one single thing.

I propose a new New year’s resolution:

To decrease the times you get angry during this year.

If you could live without anger, here are some of the benefits you will receive:

  • You will be happier
  • You will have better relationships
  • The ones around you will be happier
  • You will connect more often with Spirit
  • Your will be healthier
  • You will achieve more goals
  • The way you see others will change
  • The way other see you will change
  • You will be closer to God

Besides of all these benefits, this resolution, even though it does not seem easy at the beginning, is very simple. Even if you get mad during the year, it does not mean you missed your goal. You simply want to decrease the times you get mad. So every time you don’t get mad, you achieve your goal. At the end of next year you will be by far better than you were at the beginning of the year.

You can also have other physical goals too. In fact, decreasing the times you get angry will help you to reach those goals– every time you fall short, you will not get mad at yourself, but you will learn about it, stand up and try it again.

Every step you take will make you better. And with every step you will get closer to God and his ultimate Peace.

God Bless you this year.
James Fontaine

Life is Like a Cup of Coffee

I spend much of my time trying to explain exactly what the ego is and its influence in our lives. Sometimes, a simple metaphor is the best instruction.

Let’s say that life is a cup of coffee. The cup itself represents what we possess, the titles we have, what we have achieved, even the opinions of others about us as well as our fears. Inside the cup is the coffee– the substance of our lives. The coffee is the actual content with its flavors and nuances and the majority of our sensory experiences.

So the cup is our ego. Sometimes we believe our ego/cup is beautiful and special. Other times, we compare our cups to other people’s cups and feel critical, judgmental and even angry.

Too often, we believe life is the cup, not the coffee. But we have to pay attention to the substance of life independent of the container it is placed in. Like coffee, life floats above and around us like steam rising. We can experience its depth even without noticing the cup itself. 

Such as life, the coffee can only be tasted in the present moment. You can only enjoy life if you live in the present moment; life is now. Drink up!

I Can Only Imagine

2.4 mi. swim • 112 mi. bike • 26.2 mi. run
Ironman is one of the hardest events on earth. For most people it sounds impossible to achieve. But for Rick Hoyt it did’t sound like that, even though he experienced brain damage at birth and he couldn’t move his body. He only can communicate by a computer which he moves when he blinks his eyes. He asked his father to race with him, and when they did it for the first time he said, “Dad, when I’m running, it feels like I’m not handicapped.”

Their first race was a 5 mile run and they finished close to last. Since then they have completed several marathons and 6 Ironman competitions.

When I first saw this video I was in shock and I could not believe it– a father pushing his son to the finish line. That was when I decided to compete in triathlons. If this “super dad” ( as he has been named) could do that with his son, I could do it. And next May, hopefully I will complete my first Ironman.

As with Nick Vujocic (from a previous post) their parents did not know what God’ plans were for their sons. Now, I am pretty sure they do.

So, I can do it and so can you. Anything that you decide to achieve in your life you can. It may sound like a “cliche” , but next time you feel you can’t do something, and that you just can’t continue, go back and watch again this video. I am sure it will uplift you and encourage you to continue on your quest.

There is another inspiring story in the video. The song is “I Can Only Imagine” by Mercy Me is an American contemporary Christian band. Mercy Me’s vocalist Bart Millard’s father died from cancer when Millard was 18 years-old. Millard began writing the words “I can only imagine” on items when he was thinking about his father. He wrote the song in 1999 by drawing on his thoughts and personal faith about what one would experience upon meeting Jesus in Heaven. He wrote the song asking God what was so important about him that his Father wanted to be with him instead of his son.

The result is this beautiful song that perfectly fit into the video that has changed many lives like the Hoyt family, Bart Millard and me.

Team Hoyt website is www.teamhoyt.com