Life is Like a Cup of Coffee

I spend much of my time trying to explain exactly what the ego is and its influence in our lives. Sometimes, a simple metaphor is the best instruction.

Let’s say that life is a cup of coffee. The cup itself represents what we possess, the titles we have, what we have achieved, even the opinions of others about us as well as our fears. Inside the cup is the coffee– the substance of our lives. The coffee is the actual content with its flavors and nuances and the majority of our sensory experiences.

So the cup is our ego. Sometimes we believe our ego/cup is beautiful and special. Other times, we compare our cups to other people’s cups and feel critical, judgmental and even angry.

Too often, we believe life is the cup, not the coffee. But we have to pay attention to the substance of life independent of the container it is placed in. Like coffee, life floats above and around us like steam rising. We can experience its depth even without noticing the cup itself. 

Such as life, the coffee can only be tasted in the present moment. You can only enjoy life if you live in the present moment; life is now. Drink up!

My New YouTube Channel

I’ve set up a YouTube Channel which will feature some inspiring videos including book trailers, messages, interviews, speaking engagements and more. Here is the official book trailer and I hope you will subscribe to my YouTube Channel!

Not Every Piece of Advice is the Ultimate Truth

Many times in my life I thought I had found the ultimate truth about something. But after a while I realize that the truth I believed simply did not work for me anymore. What felt true at a certain moment, may not be true later.

For example, the power of positive thinking. When I first read about it I started to consistently repeat affirmations to myself specifically regarding things I wanted for my life. It took some work on my part, maybe because I was still breaking out of my negative thinking habits. Before positive thinking, I did achieve some things that I did not believe were possible. But overall, I couldn’t achieve most of the things I wanted at that time.

For a long time I believed that all you needed to do was to think positively. Then you could manifest just about anything.  I even tried to convince others to do it. But, as in my own experience, some things worked, and some didn’t.

Then I began to understand that positive thinking does not work by itself. Positive thinking is just a small part of the whole creating process. I found out it was not only repeating affirmations, but believing with all your being it will happen. Suddenly, more of the things I wanted started to manifest, and I felt like I finally found the ultimate truth: POSITIVE THINKING PLUS BELIEVEING.

It worked better than just positive thinking, and I practiced it for a while with great success. But suddenly (again) it did not seem to be the ultimate truth anymore. I needed something else. Then I began to receive information about God, Source, Soul, Spirit, and more. They all talked about being connected to something higher than ourselves. This time everything made sense. Positive Thinking + Believing + Connecting to the Source = Truth.

It was at this stage that I recognized that God is not just a channel to get things you’re asking for, it is the essence of everything. When you are connected with God or the Source, your life is a manifestation of God. Of course it includes the things you want to manifest, but is has a higher purpose and it has a true meaning. Because when you are connected with God, you are connected with everything and everyone. To me, that is a powerful recipe for peace.

Now everytime I find “The Ultimate Truth,” I remember to dig deeper and experience for myself what the truth really is. But I will always know that the ultimate truth has a name: God.

I Can Only Imagine

2.4 mi. swim • 112 mi. bike • 26.2 mi. run
Ironman is one of the hardest events on earth. For most people it sounds impossible to achieve. But for Rick Hoyt it did’t sound like that, even though he experienced brain damage at birth and he couldn’t move his body. He only can communicate by a computer which he moves when he blinks his eyes. He asked his father to race with him, and when they did it for the first time he said, “Dad, when I’m running, it feels like I’m not handicapped.”

Their first race was a 5 mile run and they finished close to last. Since then they have completed several marathons and 6 Ironman competitions.

When I first saw this video I was in shock and I could not believe it– a father pushing his son to the finish line. That was when I decided to compete in triathlons. If this “super dad” ( as he has been named) could do that with his son, I could do it. And next May, hopefully I will complete my first Ironman.

As with Nick Vujocic (from a previous post) their parents did not know what God’ plans were for their sons. Now, I am pretty sure they do.

So, I can do it and so can you. Anything that you decide to achieve in your life you can. It may sound like a “cliche” , but next time you feel you can’t do something, and that you just can’t continue, go back and watch again this video. I am sure it will uplift you and encourage you to continue on your quest.

There is another inspiring story in the video. The song is “I Can Only Imagine” by Mercy Me is an American contemporary Christian band. Mercy Me’s vocalist Bart Millard’s father died from cancer when Millard was 18 years-old. Millard began writing the words “I can only imagine” on items when he was thinking about his father. He wrote the song in 1999 by drawing on his thoughts and personal faith about what one would experience upon meeting Jesus in Heaven. He wrote the song asking God what was so important about him that his Father wanted to be with him instead of his son.

The result is this beautiful song that perfectly fit into the video that has changed many lives like the Hoyt family, Bart Millard and me.

Team Hoyt website is