“If babies held the same tendency toward self-criticism as adults, they might never learn to walk or talk.” DAN MILLMAN
When we learned to walk, we fell down many times. But that did not stop us from walking. We kept walking, and never doubted that we would get to our goal.
This process, which is natural in human beings (and also in animals), is something we start to lose as we begin to pay attention to others’ opinions—our parents, friends, brothers and sisters, and teachers. Most of these opinions have a good intention, but as we begin to believe them, they limit us. Eventually we learn to reprimand ourselves and to condemn many of our own actions. This feeling is only enhanced when others don’t like what we do, especially when our parents, teachers, and friends get angry with our behavior.
This self doubt occurs when we listen to our ego more than to our instincts or to our true self.
If we can recreate this process and learn from our mistakes,we will be free of the anger we have against ourselves. Even though it is not easy, it is simple; every time you make a mistake recognize, assume the consequences, and move on. Don’t dwell on it because this will stop you from learning.
Every time we learn from our mistakes, we grow– just as we did when we were children. When we learn from our mistakes, then we are on the path to greatness. Because from that moment problems and mistakes become opportunities to learn from. In the end I believe this is one of the reasons we came here… to learn.
So next time you make a mistake, remember Dan Millman’s phrase and learn from the opportunity that is in front of you.