Self- Criticism Can Become a Bad Habit

“If babies held the same tendency toward self-criticism as adults, they might never learn to walk or talk.”  DAN MILLMAN

When we learned to walk, we fell down many times. But that did not stop us from walking. We kept walking, and never doubted that we would get to our goal.

This process, which is natural in human beings (and also in animals), is something we start to lose as we begin to pay attention to others’ opinions—our parents, friends, brothers and sisters, and teachers. Most of these opinions have a good intention, but as we begin to believe them, they limit us. Eventually we learn to reprimand ourselves and to condemn many of our own actions. This feeling is only enhanced when others don’t like what we do, especially when our parents, teachers, and friends get angry with our behavior.

This self doubt occurs when we listen to our ego more than to our instincts or to our true self.

If we can recreate this process and learn from our mistakes,we will be free of the anger we have against ourselves. Even though it is not easy, it is simple; every time you make a mistake recognize, assume the consequences, and move on. Don’t dwell on it because this will stop you from learning.

Every time we learn from our mistakes, we grow– just as we did when we were children. When we learn from our mistakes, then we are on the path to greatness. Because from that moment problems and mistakes become opportunities to learn from. In the end I believe this is one of the reasons we came here… to learn.

So next time you make a mistake, remember Dan Millman’s phrase and learn from the opportunity that is in front of you.

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3 thoughts on “Self- Criticism Can Become a Bad Habit

  1. How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world. ~ Anne Frank
    You are an example of this LU

  2. Hello!
    Wonderful to know that we can´t go back in time. And every time we get back, we notice that the clock goes forward. Ya, we can travel in time in our mind. And some time we stop and can´t get out. We are lost in a bad stressful memory.
    WuZhi means The Five Willings (Happiness, Brood, Trouble, Fear and Anger) Thees are all connected to our vegetative system, our inner organ-systems (Traditional Chines Medicin). ESR means Emotional Stress Release (taking from Applied Kinesiology, Educational Kinesiology and EduKinesthetic Brain Gym). WuZhi ESR is the name of my work fore getting out even if we are lost and sitting fast. Our mind tells the stress-system to keep awake even if we not are observant at the stress-factor in present time. But the memory keep us back. And positive forts, emotion and action get us away from the ditch. Every situation got its own emotional environment, and there can be a lot of negative emotions and even strong ones. We can find out the opposite emotions and affirmations to get released. Thats therapy, keep smiling and being kind its culture behavior we can´t live without. It´s the same about vitamins. The positive emotions under calm circumstances, not overdriven, Keep both our mind and our inner organ vital. A smile gives You even a healthy body!

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